Is Love Healthy?
Have you ever noticed that people often speak of love without actually comprehending what it means? Love encompasses a broad spectrum of positive and strong emotional states, from the deepest personal spiritual feeling, the highest human trait, the greatest love, the most sublime physical sensation, or the purest happiness imaginable. Most of us, however, have trouble describing such love. If you have a friend or loved one that you deeply care about, why not write down some ways in which you think he or she feels when you are not around? Perhaps you can describe your own feelings of love for your spouse or girlfriend, boyfriend, best friend, or mother? If so, then you have just taken first step to understanding love more intimately, and you will probably be able to give a better description of your own feelings of love to another person than your friend or loved one ever could.
The word “love” is really just a small part of a broad spectrum of strong feelings. There are different levels of intense romantic love, of which there are two general types: (a) deep affection which can only be felt by one person; and (b) superficial, or temporary love, felt by two or more people at the same time. Deep affection is often described as a bond of friendship between lovers. On the other hand, superficial love is often described as an intense feeling of love, friendship, or amusement.
One important way to think about love is to think about the healthy relationship in which you find yourself. A healthy relationship is one in which both partners have a deep and consistent desire to love each other. This desire is not dependent on any one person, and is not conditional. When these feelings are present in one another, they are usually satisfied, and are therefore considered healthy.
However, this is not always the case. A healthy relationship is usually characterized by feelings of closeness, affection, and appreciation, shared with another person that cannot be explained away by mere physical attraction. As a result, one partner can focus on lavishing all of their affection on their partner, and the other partner can also make love, but in a much more intimate way, feeling that they are connected to and deeply appreciated by the other person in their relationship.
When this kind of romantic love is present in a relationship, it is typically referred to as being “healthy”. However, sometimes these intense feelings can take over, causing an imbalance of positive emotions. Unhealthy love often causes one person to become overly focused on their partner and only the other person, and little attention is paid to themselves. This can lead to feelings of isolation, and eventually to feelings of detachment. When this happens, it can be difficult to feel anything beyond the surface of one’s relationship.
The good news is that you do have resources that can help you overcome these difficulties. You can make love better by making sure that both partners are paying attention to their own needs, and feelings of loneliness or detachment are eliminated as well as feelings of infatuation. To do this, it is important for you to take stock of your own thoughts and feelings. For example, if you are dating someone who has a very intense romantic love for another person, it may be helpful to note if you have negative thoughts about the other person, or if you keep talking yourself into feeling this way. If you can put aside these thoughts, and truly give undivided attention to your own feelings, you will likely find that your relationships become more fulfilling, as well-being increases.